just 4 me
inner child
The "Just 4 Me" girls always seemed like the most vibrant and joyful. I longed to feel as happy, seen, and heard as they appeared, but I knew it would take more than just a box of texturizer. My family issues ran deep, from incarceration and bullying to tone-deaf parenting and various traumas identified by the ACES assessment. I internalized these struggles profoundly, and as I grew, I was unaware of the inner child within me who was still suffering and crying for the help she never received.
Therapy and other approaches have helped me understand the importance of re-parenting my inner child, affirming that she mattered, was listened to, and would always be seen. Although I still have my challenges, I am now more aware of my past struggles and where they originate.
That little Black girl inside you is important—was she always treated as such? If not, here are some ways to reconnect with and nurture your inner child:
Create a Safe Space: Designate a physical space or mental practice where you can express yourself freely, whether through art, writing, or simply sitting quietly with your thoughts.
Celebrate Cultural Traditions: Engage in practices and rituals that celebrate your heritage and connect with your cultural roots. This can provide comfort and a sense of belonging.
Self-Care Rituals: Incorporate self-care routines that honor your identity and past, such as meditation, journaling, or spending time with loved ones who uplift and affirm you.
Affirmations and Positive Reinforcement: Use affirmations that specifically address and heal your inner child's wounds, reinforcing that you are valued and loved.
Therapeutic Practices: Explore therapy or counseling with professionals who understand the unique experiences of African American women and can offer tailored support.
Community Support: Connect with supportive communities or groups that share your experiences and can offer mutual understanding and encouragement.
To assist in this process, I have included videos below on inner child work, which can help revolutionize our lives and promote healing.
Inner Child Meditation!
Quick intro to inner child work and the parts that reflect our psyche.
